You Blame Feminists and Women? Uh-Oh, You've Been Duped by Male Supremacy

If I had a nickel for every time a man or woman blamed women and feminism for anything and everything, well, I would be able to finally beat the sex-based wage gap, the feminization of poverty, and all the other ways male supremacy strategically oppresses women and girls. Recently, a female creator whom I admired on Instagram exclaimed she is no longer a feminist and then proceeded to share slides blaming women and girls for male supremacy. At first, I felt rage. But once my reactivity resided, I saw a woman so lost and isolated she believed she was on the right path. It made me wonder if she lived in the real world amongst women fighting to survive make supremacy, or within media echo chambers that were working overtime to rage-bait her into anti-feminist and anti-woman sentiments. My heart goes out to her struggles. Yet I’m starting to realize I need to protect my peace from such women, just like I always had to do with such men. Sometimes it’s astounding how such individuals don’t see how male-centered they actually are in their judgment of all women and feminists. They don’t see that they’re parroting the same beliefs of the male supremacists they aim to destroy. They end up destroying themselves, their sisters, and the dream of solidarity. They blow up bridges in the name of smugness and supposed purity.

The only term that I’ve always wholeheartedly claimed is “feminist.” I’ve never shied away from saying it. Even during my lowest depths, when I started shying away from the word “woman”, I still held tightly to the word “feminist.” Now I’ve found my way back to the word “woman” and it has revitalized my fight for feminism. These words are wholly distinct, yet they are deeply connected. Only a woman can be a feminist, but not all women are feminists. And the only way to be a feminist, is to fully embrace womanness. Males’ tool of oppression called gender got me confused on the meaning of both these terms, because that was precisely their goal. But like any person working towards progress, I stumbled, but I found my way back.

When I first learned the word “feminist” in college, it felt like a missing piece of vital knowledge was finally given to me. Yet my entire life, I’ve witnessed this word be denigrated over and over again. The irony that the word “feminism” is treated the same way women and girls are, is NOT lost on me. It’s not by chance; it’s based on male supremacist strategy. “Feminist” is synonymous with “woman” for these males, and both are insults to them. A woman who says anything that challenges male entitlement quickly gets called “a feminist”. She could be a completely traumatized, self-hating woman who fights against women’s rights, but as soon as she isn’t agreeable enough to the males around her, they call her “feminist” to shut her down. These males use it as an insult, much like they use the terms “woman”, “girl”, and “female” as insults. Notice how women who challenge transgender ideology, but never question gender ideology as a whole, get called “radical feminists” automatically. Instead of these males calling them “transphobic”, they specifically choose the term “TERF” because it includes the word feminist. The word feminist isn’t divisive or meaningless, but males want to try and make it so. They weaponize and water it down by using it as a synonym for any woman with an opinion, to destroy feminism in the eyes of the public. They want to scare women out of using the term or developing a feminist practice. This has even led to an entire genre of women who call themselves “anti-feminist” and gain followers based on denigrating women and feminism.

You hate feminism? You blame feminism? You hate women? You blame women? You live and die by purity myths and “all or nothing thinking?”

That means you’re fulfilling the goals of the male sex-class, of male culture. Have you dug into your own trauma responses to living under male oppression? Are you cracking under the frustrations of denial by fellow women who are attempting to survive? Are you basing your beliefs on confirmation bias because it feels easier to blame women? Are you riding on a way of smugness, thinking that you could never be a victim of violence? Do you believe you’re superior to other women, so you can hold onto cognitive dissonance about how easily male violence can rob you of freedom?

Sister, who or what is informing your thoughts?

Have you dug to the roots, or do you remain in the branches, swinging in reactivity?

Feminism is the female sex-class struggle of women and girls to be liberated from all forms of male supremacy and to be treated as dignified, distinct, material human beings.

Reactive rage that isn’t channeled into proactive and critical thinking will lead you to false conclusions every single time...you become the snake eating his tales and your tail. Blaming women, blaming feminism, plays right into male supremacists’ hands. We are all works in progress. None of us are “perfect” victims or survivors of male supremacy. We’re human, we’re messy, we make mistakes, and then we try again. Let go of those who so rigidly hold onto myths of purity and perfection that they lose themselves.

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